When a woman discovers her husband has been watching porn behind her back, it can feel absolutely devastating. It is a traumatic discovery in the truest sense of the word—the wife undergoes terrible trauma. These women often begin to doubt themselves, caught in the immense insecurity of feeling the need to compete…
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4 Ways to Minister to People with Sexual Addictions
Over the past few years, I’ve been in a fortunate position to be able to minister to many men locally and across the United States who struggle with an addiction to pornography. Pornography is a huge issue inside and outside the church. Based on the things I’ve learned in ministry,…
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Porn in High School: 6 Reasons It’s a Serious Problem
Sadly, most high school students will encounter porn before they graduate. While passing around sexy pictures in school is nothing new, the ubiquity of today’s porn—and its intensely graphic nature—is unique. If you pay attention to the news, you may have seen stories of teachers coming under scrutiny for their…
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Is Watching Porn Normal?
Statistics show that watching porn is extremely common—but does that make it normal? Three-quarters of men regularly consume pornography along with more than a third of women. So it is true that plenty of normal people watch porn. (Check out Covenant Eyes Porn Stats) The Danish thinker Soren Kierkegaard observed,…
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The Sex Buffet: How Availability Changes the Way Culture Sees Women
I was at our local grocery store the other day in the checkout aisle when I saw her. I had never seen anything this disturbing in my grocery store before. There she was, right in front of my eyes without a shirt on. I’m not exaggerating here. Thankfully she was wearing…
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Tough Love for Your Unrepentant, Porn-Using Husband
“There’s nothing I can do. As a Christian I’m obligated to simply ‘forgive and forget,’ and just move on.” “I can’t set boundaries with him. I’m not his mom!” “I’m completely alone. And I have to deal with it alone, since telling anyone would dishonor my husband.” “Well, this is…
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Single and Struggling with Lust
Recently I received an anonymous email from a single man about his struggles with lust. He asked for prayer regarding his lust, and he made it clear how difficult it was to have a “normal” sex drive and be a single man. He wrote, “Why have a sex drive if…
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Do You Have the Emotional Intelligence to Quit Porn?
“Yeah, I would say Kevin is making good progress with his pornography addiction,” Carol told me during a couple’s session when I asked if she thought her husband was on the right path of recovery. “But there’s still something wrong. He doesn’t talk, except to give one-word answers, and I…
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Have Yourself a Merry Little (Porn-Free) Christmas
A classic movie, Meet Me in St. Louis, was released weeks before Christmas in 1944. Judy Garland played the leading role, as a young woman seeking to comfort her sister in the face of their father moving the family to New York City against their wishes. Garland sang the following…
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For Allies: How to Respond When Your Friend Looks at Porn
Brian hopped on his laptop to see if any grad schools had gotten back to him yet. He knew he had just sent out his transcripts an hour before, and he knew that clicking the refresh button on his browser had no scientific ability to generate new emails that had…
