During a bank robbery in Stockholm, Sweden, in 1973, robbers held several hostages for six long days. During this time, a curious thing began to happen: The hostages began to show signs of sympathy for their captors. Even after the ordeal was over, one of the hostages later became good…
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“My Boyfriend Watches Porn!” 7 Realities to Consider
If you’ve discovered your boyfriend watches porn, you’re not alone. I got a letter from a young woman asking about how to deal with her boyfriend’s porn habit while dating. She gave me permission to share what she writes. “My boyfriend has been using porn since adolescence. During college he…
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Pastors and Porn – Question #1: “Should I confess my struggle to other church leaders?”
Many of us as church leaders have growing sexual struggles. Our private life underneath does not match what we portray on the outside. Then the question arises, “Should I share my sexual struggles with my church leaders?” The short answer is: “yes.” The better answer is: “yes, but wisely.” Let’s…
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Porn and Anxiety: What Does Research Tell Us?
Is there a connection between watching porn and anxiety? Perhaps you’ve been experiencing anxiety and have wondered if it’s related to your porn habit. Maybe you’ve noticed a friend or loved one who seems especially anxious, and you’re concerned that porn might be causing it. Let’s take a look at…
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Therapeutic Disclosure: How It Can Help Your Marriage Heal
What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You Imagine you go to the doctor and learn that you might have cancer. You are sent home and told to come back next week to find out. You don’t know if you have cancer, what kind, or your prognosis. Suddenly you don’t know what…
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6 Ways That Watching Porn Affects Relationships
Studies have shown that as much as 70% of men and upwards of 30% of women view porn regularly.1 Furthermore, each successive generation seems to grow more tolerant and accepting of porn. Now, most people accept porn as part of life, a private matter of preference, and nothing to do…
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Fight Porn in Your Church: What Works and Why It Matters
Dead. That’s exactly how John felt that morning as he faced the platform. He was singing along with the music, eyes closed, trying to focus on the lyrics, trying to lift his heart to God as best he knew how. But like many Sundays before, his soul felt shriveled and…
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4 Sneaky Places That Normalize Porn Use for Kids
Younger kids access stuff out there that isn’t exactly 100% porn or isn’t so intense that it seems to be really bad. That leads them into thinking porn isn’t so bad and eventually looking at a lot of hardcore porn. – A 21-year-old student As the quote above indicates, we really…
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Purity Culture and Its Unfortunate Intersection With Porn
It seems like every few weeks, something happens to make purity culture trend on Twitter. As of this writing, it’s trending due to the release of a podcast about the brief lifespan of a major megachurch, but nearly anything could trigger rants about purity culture: an influencer’s “deconstruction”; the revelation…
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Paul vs. Porn: How the Old Apostle Delivers a Death Blow to a Modern Addiction
Why are so many today seemingly hooked on porn—I mean, other than the seductive naked people? More than one in three (39%) Christian men and one in eight (13%) Christian women say they believe their use of porn is “excessive.” Many of these would describe their use as “addictive.” Leaving…
