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How You Respond After Sinning Affects “The Next Time” As crazy as it sounds, did you know that there’s actually a wrong way to repent? The Bible teaches us that there is a right way and a wrong way to respond and relate to God after we’ve sinned. In my…
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In today’s video, Tonia dug deeper into how Brandon’s porn use caused her to experience betrayal trauma. Now, “betrayal trauma” is kind of a heavy word—an “I survived a war zone” or an “I was in a horrific accident that left physical and mental scars” sort of word. It should…
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While teaching at a men’s retreat, a standoffish young single challenged me with a purity question, “There are so many things in the Bible we don’t observe any longer. I mean, we don’t circumcise, or observe the Law, so why should sex be any different? If my girlfriend and I…
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Addiction is an ugly thing. When that familiar craving comes, it seems to wash over us like a wave of compulsion. The heart begins to race, the blood pressure rises, and the mind is consumed with one nagging thought: “Just one more time.” And the million-dollar question every addict has…
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By now, many people know that porn can affect their brains, but did you know that porn has been linked to memory loss? Over the past decade, a growing body of research has demonstrated that porn causes serious problems with working memory. Let’s take a closer look at the connection…
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Like most Mondays, several couples fly in to do a 3 or 5-Day Intensive with me and my team. Many couples I see will inevitably tell me the tale of being in a sexless marriage for months, years, or decades. I smile and tell them not to worry. I have…
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People often ask if it’s truly possible to be free from porn. They may feel they’ve tried everything and are beginning to despair. They may believe recovery isn’t possible, at least not for them. Still, freedom from porn is possible. We know this for two reasons: Before we engage in practical…
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For many of us who have grown up with the presence of pornography from a young age—magazines, movies, or the Internet—marriage is sometimes viewed as the healthy “cure” to end a pornography habit. “I’ll stop when I’m married” or “I won’t bring this into my marriage” is usually the rationale.…
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It’s the thing nobody in the church wants to talk about. But it kills more marriages, drains more hearts, and ends more ministries than anything else. It’s the elephant in the church–pornography. The church has only three available responses: ignore it, condemn it, or address it. We have chosen to…
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What does the Bible say about watching pornography? I’ve searched my concordance and it’s nowhere to be found. But the Bible still has plenty to say about it. The word “pornography” is actually a combination of two Greek words that frequently appear in the original text of the Bible: “porneia”…
