After a lifetime of habitual sexual sin, today I’m still living in freedom from my sexual addiction and able to mentor others who struggle so they too can experience the freedom that I now enjoy. Needless to say, I love what I do for a living. But I remember the…
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Addiction Recovery: What Do I Need to Do?
Since my own addiction recovery journey began in 2009, I have had dozens, if not hundreds, of opportunities to speak with men at “square one.” Their own addiction has either just been exposed or they have just confessed it. They are in an emotional and spiritual crater. Their life seems…
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$28-Billion-Crime: New film shows the dark connection between sex addiction and sex trafficking
I stood before a less-than-captive audience at the local community college talking about the subject of pornography. I had been called in as a “special lecturer” for a required Ethics class to discuss the moral problems associated with porn. In order to wake the class from their usual slumber, I…
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The Two Most Important Questions to Ask If You Have a Setback
Recently, a married man from a support group I lead had two setbacks (or relapses) with porn on the same day. But rather than quitting, he sheepishly retorted, “It was just what the doctor ordered!” One of the hardest things to understand or accept is that setbacks may be a part…
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4 Reasons You Should Be An Abolitionist
“Human trafficking is the world’s fastest growing criminal enterprise and is an estimated $32 billion-a-year global industry” (California DOJ). The numbers are devastating. More than 27 million people spend every day as modern-day slaves, 2 million of which are children. Many of the children and adults are victims of sex trafficking.…
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Purity Culture and Its Unfortunate Intersection With Porn
It seems like every few weeks, something happens to make purity culture trend on Twitter. As of this writing, it’s trending due to the release of a podcast about the brief lifespan of a major megachurch, but nearly anything could trigger rants about purity culture: an influencer’s “deconstruction”; the revelation…
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My Choice Between Marriage and Porn
The following narrative is based on a true story shared by one of our members. Names and details have been changed to protect privacy. The Ultimatum Amy handed me the ring, “I can’t marry you. Not yet.” She looked away and wiped the tears from her eyes. My stomach reeled.…
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The one thing you need to do to break porn habits forever
I wish it were that simple. One thing? If it were that simple then it would be simple, but you and I both know that is not the case. Certainly gouging out your eyes and cutting off your hands as Jesus mentions in Matthew 5 is an option, but not…
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What to Do if Your Husband Lies About Porn Use
You just caught your husband watching porn. And you felt it. The sinking feeling in your stomach. The stab across your chest when you saw what your husband was looking at. Maybe even the screaming void that wordlessly reminds you this wasn’t the first time. But when you try to confront…
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To the Teen Alone and Ashamed of Your Porn Use
Shame Has No Age Limit Shame affects kids, teens, and adults. I’ll never forget receiving a phone call from a distraught mother who found my website, and called to share the story of her 9-year-old son who had been sexually abused at a sleepover. He was now 11 and a…