For 31 years, I was a senior pastor of three churches, ranging in membership from 200 to 2,000. For every one of those 31 years, I struggled with sex addiction. I know firsthand that pastors struggle with porn and sex addiction at alarming rates. Despite repeated visits to multiple therapists,…
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I Can’t Do It Alone
I crouched nervously behind the glow of our home office computer. Just hours before, my sister and her friends had called me into that very room to see “something funny.” I was trying to remember the words they searched — to replicate the series of clicks that would bring me…
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True Story: Calum’s Journey to Freedom from Porn
My name is Calum, and this is my story of overcoming pornography and lust. A little less than nine years ago I was working on a slideshow for a project in choir. Innocently scrolling to find just the right photo for each part of the song, I stumbled across some…
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How Boundaries Helped Heal Our Marriage: Robin and Dave’s Story
Fifteen years ago, Dave called a dating line hoping to have a sexual conversation with a woman. Even though he confessed it, he was unwilling to admit the seriousness of his offense. I asked him to leave. He gathered a few things and stormed out of the house angry and…
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Myth Busters: “I’ll stop looking at porn when I get married”
The TV show MythBusters is known for taking popular myths and showing if they are true or not. More often than not, true to the show’s name, myths are “busted,” shown for the falsehoods they really are. I hope this article serves as a buster for two popular myths single…
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Confessions of an Anonymous Sex Addict
The author of this post has asked to remain anonymous. His name and the names of those in this story have been replaced by other names to maintain anonymity. Ben was born into a very respected family in a pleasant community in Northern California. His father was a minister at…
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The Women Behind the Fantasy: The Day I Met a Porn Star
Over the last month I have been ministering to a young woman who struggles with pornography. I’m going to call her “Angie.” Angie was so relieved to have finally found a Christian woman who knows and understands her struggles. I, too, have battled a pornography addiction along with same-sex attractions.…
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Everything Changed With a Video
I was a 14-year-old Catholic. I sang with the church choir, attended Mass every weekend, and participated in youth group as often as I could. My friends and family had always warned me about the dangers of pornography. They told me how addictive it could be and how demeaning it…
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Why Porn Hurts Marriages (and why marital sex is so much hotter than porn)
Porn argues that variety is the spice of life, but studies show that long-term sexual intimacy with a spouse is much more satisfying. Porn tries to convince people that more porn and more partners brings satisfaction. But a 2011 study of long-term committed relationships (with a median duration of 25…
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Porn in High School: 6 Reasons It’s a Serious Problem
Sadly, most high school students will encounter porn before they graduate. While passing around sexy pictures in school is nothing new, the ubiquity of today’s porn—and its intensely graphic nature—is unique. If you pay attention to the news, you may have seen stories of teachers coming under scrutiny for their…