In our last article, we looked at what kinds of plans succeed or fail to accomplish your goals. This article explores the interaction between you and your plans—”cybernetic control.” Cybernetic control sounds like something from a sci-fi movie or a dystopian novel. Think of human behavior like a computer; how…
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Why Men Lack Courage to Quit Porn
“Our world desperately needs men. Real men. Manly men. Godly men. Holy men. Courageous men. Men who fear no one because they fear their God more. Our culture despises true, biblical manhood. What our young people today who grow up in American society will not learn on their own, from…
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How I Finally Broke Free from My 30-Year Addiction to Porn
The year 2004 began very bitter-sweetly. My addiction to pornography was no longer a secret. That first look at porn at age 12 and the 30 years of addiction that followed had imploded on me. My wife had discovered what she suspected. I was visiting numerous porn sites and was…
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3 Ugly Facts About the Porn Industry
Why do women get into the porn industry? Dr. Sharon Mitchell co-founded the Adult Industry Medical Healthcare Foundation, also called AIM. For about 20 years she was a porn actress and director herself, and after opening her clinic, saw well over 1000 porn stars every month for STD testing, so…
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How Do I Keep My Husband from Looking at Pornography?
My wife runs a ministry at our church called Hearts Restored. It ministers to women who have suffered sexual betrayal. In almost every case the husband struggles with or is addicted to porn. The reaction of their wives is multifaceted. They are angry. They feel betrayed. They feel the need…
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Personal Integrity and the Road to Recovery
Integrity could rightly be labeled the “litmus test” of true recovery from pornography. Addicts are prone to define sobriety and recovery on their own terms, and when they do so, that is all that they will ever attain. Perhaps what James said about the tongue could be applied to the…
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The Ultimate Guide to Identifying (and Redirecting) Your Porn Triggers
The great military strategist Sun Tzu once said, “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.” In the battle against porn, knowing your triggers and the triggers around you is critical to victory. Therapists often use the acronym “HALT” to…
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Accountability Lessons from Job’s Friends
The more we study the Bible, the more clearly the principles of biblical accountability are revealed, often in surprising places. While the book of Job primarily concerns the problem of suffering, it also deals with the problem of friends who try to help us with suffering—our imperfect allies. What can…
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4 Myths About Our Kids and Porn
A mom recently contacted me because her 11-year-old son had been looking at porn. She didn’t know what to do and needed to talk to someone. Just the week before, Julie [name changed] was having a conversation with her 18-year-old son about life. At one point in his teenage years, he…
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6 Ways That Covenant Eyes Employees Stay Porn-Free
At Covenant Eyes, we’re passionate about helping people overcome porn. Over the years, we’ve walked with over 1.5 million people on the path to a porn-free life. But we’re not just passionate about helping others quit porn—we want to keep pornography out of our own lives, and out of our…