My friend Luke Gilkerson with Covenant Eyes interviewed me regarding how to respond to a parent who just caught his/her son in porn. Luke’s questions are in italics, with my responses underneath: Start with hope LG: Let’s say a dad came to see you for advice about his teenage son.…
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Pastors and Porn – Question #4: "But who can I ask to hold me accountable?"
I’ll never forget one day after I presented a workshop on pornography and sexual addiction, when a youth pastor approached me to tell a most sad story. He explained how he had recently moved across the country to take a position at a church. He was in the office early…
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Finding the Willpower to Defeat Porn: Part 1
“So Joshua fought the Amalekites as Moses had ordered, and Moses, Aaron and Hur went to the top of the hill. As long as Moses held up his hands, the Israelites were winning, but whenever he lowered his hands, the Amalekites were winning. When Moses’ hands grew tired, they took…
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All You Need for Quitting Porn (And for Everything Else)
What do you need to quit porn? 2 Peter 1:3 says “[God’s] divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness.” That’s a verse that makes me pause for a minute, especially at times when I feel overwhelmed, discouraged, or frustrated. Everything I need. Wow. Everything is…
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Don’t Ignore Your Marriage After Sexual Addiction is Discovered
Over the past month I have given a few presentations at conferences for other therapists on the topic of Sex Addiction in marriage. It is such a neglected topic and has gotten me thinking. When pornography addiction or sex addiction is discovered, overwhelmingly couples are encouraged to focus on their…
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Porn: A Gateway Drug
I work with men every day who struggle with some type of sexual addiction, and they all have one thing in common: porn. For a lot of guys, this is their main vice. The men who also have affairs, go to massage parlors, use escorts, or prostitutes all report the…
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The Two Best Predictors of Addictive Behavior
Ben’s eyes are bulging and red. He pounds the arm rest with clenched fists and growls, “Why do I keep going back to this stuff?!” Only, he didn’t say “stuff.” If porn were a person he could fight, Ben would rip them apart with his bare hands. Tormented, he looks up and…
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Join the Fight: Help Covenant Eyes Save Lives
People come to Covenant Eyes with some terribly heartbreaking stories. We hear countless stories of parents who are devastated to discover their children have accessed pornography. We answer phone calls and e-mails from husbands and wives whose marriages are holding on by a thread after months and years of pornography…
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I Created Porn in My Head: David Heughin’s Story
When David Heughins became a born-again Christian at five years old, porn was the last thing on his mind. Raised in a parsonage, he wasn’t supposed to “struggle” with anything. Unfortunately, David’s Christianity was mostly rules and fear. As a child, he was at the bottom of the metaphoric schoolyard…
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Marriage Damaged by Porn: A Pastor’s Reflections
Dr. T. C. Ryan Recently I was asked about a very difficult situation. A woman has been married to a man with a long-term addiction to pornography. The last few years he’s been trying to stop, but by his own efforts alone. When she asks him if he’s struggling he…