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Living with integrity in this world is quite difficult because our culture is so against it, but as a Christian God has called me to be different, and striving for integrity plays a key role in that. It is so easy to fall into the temptation of pornography. Unfortunately, I…
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Many of us as church leaders have growing sexual struggles. Our private life underneath does not match what we portray on the outside. Then the question arises, “Should I share my sexual struggles with my church leaders?” The short answer is: “yes.” The better answer is: “yes, but wisely.” Let’s…
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As a young college student, I received an opportunity to participate in a pastoral internship at an inner-city church in a neighboring state. After arrival and a brief orientation, I was left on my own to settle in. I had a few hours to kill, so I drove around town…
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Certain people have a tell-tale sign that makes it easy to recognize when they’re lying: their lips are moving. In other words, some folks lie continuously. If their mouth is open and producing sound, it is the sound of deception. They might lie to get out of trouble. They might lie…
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Today, Brandon and Tonia discussed the role counseling played in their marriage. For Tonia, it was a breath of fresh air—a safe place to let out all of her emotions. When Brandon saw how it was helping her, he began to realize that it wasn’t just for people who couldn’t…
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Shame is a complex issue. It impacts our thinking, our behaviors, and our relationships. It plays a significant role in addiction and compulsive behaviors with pornography, alcohol, drugs, depression, anxiety, ongoing anger, and other unwanted behavior in our lives. Shame lies to us about our identity, who we are as…
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I have long struggled with lust, first giving in to pornography as a 6th grader. As I approach my junior year of college, I see the destruction that my addiction has caused and the further hurt it may cause. How can a young man keep his ways pure? By hiding…
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There is a deep-seated struggle in the heart of the Church, and thus the heart of the family. Pornography has found its way into our homes, places of work, rectories, churches, communities, schools—you name it. Because of what the statistics show about exposure for children and teens and the likelihood…
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During a bank robbery in Stockholm, Sweden, in 1973, robbers held several hostages for six long days. During this time, a curious thing began to happen: The hostages began to show signs of sympathy for their captors. Even after the ordeal was over, one of the hostages later became good…
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For 20 years, I thought I was the only one: the only woman, especially a supposedly Christian woman, who harbored shameful sexual secrets. I did everything I could to hide them and everything I could to continue in them. I juggled competing realities of an exhausting double life, and I…
