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While teaching at a men’s retreat, a standoffish young single challenged me with a purity question, “There are so many things in the Bible we don’t observe any longer. I mean, we don’t circumcise, or observe the Law, so why should sex be any different? If my girlfriend and I…
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Continued from Part 2 of Noah’s story… I was hooked on porn as a Bible college student. I fell back into it in the first years of my marriage. I wanted to flee marriage and pursue a life of promiscuity. As I clung to God through failure, his grace carried me through.…
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June is Men’s Health Awareness Month, so it’s time to talk about everybody’s favorite topic: porn-induced erectile dysfunction. “If you are under 40, and not on specific medications, and don’t have a serious medical or psychological condition, your copulatory ED almost certainly arises from performance anxiety or internet porn—or a…
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Last we met, we left Zack and his father, Aaron, as they were about to have “the talk.” Before Aaron was ready to talk to his son about sex and porn, Aaron had to do some of his own work. This is very important—before any parent is able or willing…
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About 45% of Americans make New Year’s resolutions, and 88% of all resolutions end in failure. Your resolution this year might be to “lose weight,” “get organized,” or “quit smoking.” Regardless, there are good psychological reasons why most New Year’s resolutions, including the resolution to quit porn, fail. And when…
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Shame plays a very important role in the ongoing use of pornography. In his book Unwanted, Jay Stringer found that for each unit of shame they felt, men were 300x more likely and women were 546x more likely to look at porn. And, Dr. Patrick Carnes, a founding father of…
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Christians and porn have an odd relationship. Most Christians, if asked, would say that porn is wrong, yet an increasing number of Christians (including women, kids, and pastors) admit to watching it. Part of the reason for this may be we haven’t received clear answers to some big questions about…
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As a Sexual Integrity Mentor™, I see it happen every holiday season to many of the men I mentor. Slips. Relapses. People essentially take a holiday from their recovery, and as a result, fall back into many of their old sexual sin habits. It can make for a very “Bah,…
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Watching pornography often involves several rituals—whether we’re aware of it or not. And whether we’re aware of it or not, it likewise requires rituals to break free from watching pornography. Anti-Ritualism in America If you’re a Christian struggling with porn, that may seem odd. A 2017 Pew Research poll showed…
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I wasn’t sure what I was in for when I first picked up a copy of Dangerous Men: Beginning the Process of Lust-Free Living. The book is published with a real rugged feel to it: The pages look nothing like a textbook, but more like the field manual of a…
