Ten years ago, we were missionaries in the Solomon Islands, arriving at the goal of our ministry: finishing a New Testament translation in the Arosi language. Ten years ago my husband Andy also had a pretty serious problem with Internet pornography. He described it this way: “Porn was always on…
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Porn Addiction Support Group: How to Find Help When You Need It
For many struggling with porn addiction, a support group is the difference between success and failure. When porn addiction takes hold, it drives people into shame and isolation. We don’t want to talk about struggles with porn, which can lead to secrecy or even lying, which brings deeper shame and…
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Why You Should Persevere in Pursuing Freedom from Porn Addiction
You realize you have become addicted to porn or sex, or are on your way to addiction. You find yourself in a really crappy place and decide you are going to leave. However, you try to stop and find that it seems impossible. You are ashamed of this and feel…
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7 Conversation Starters to Discuss Your Porn Addiction With Your Spouse
Your journey to freedom from pornography most likely didn’t take only one conversation, one moment of healing, or one act of repentance. Instead, it’s been made up (or will be made up) of many rounds of discussion, many layers of healing, and a multitude of confessions because bad habits are…
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Hope During Your Husband’s Porn Addiction: 3 Critical Reminders
The waves were rough that day. I had my little daughter standing next to me in the calf-deep water. Grannie was sitting in front of me, closer to the shore. We chatted. We laughed. And we didn’t notice the wave behind us. All of the sudden we were smacked with…
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Building Trust Despite His Relapses: Hope for Wives of Porn Addicts
This is a story I hear a lot from women: “My husband just can’t seem to kick the habit. We’ve been in this fight for years now. Whenever he gets caught, he seems to feel really badly about it. He’ll do all the right things. He seems really open about…
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5 Common Mistakes When Helping Wives of Porn Addicts in Our Churches
Whether you are a member of a congregation, a volunteer Sunday school teacher, a small group leader, or a pastor, statistics show that there is likely a woman in your congregation struggling with her husband’s pornography use. It stands to reason that a woman who belongs to a church (or…
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My Porn Addiction Started With a Book and a Babysitting Job (Part 2)
Lacy is a wife, mother of four sons, author, women’s recovery coach, and advocate for female recovery efforts. She advocates for research, new treatment and recovery methods for women, and education of parents. She won’t stop talking and writing until every woman who struggles knows that she’s not the only…
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My Porn Addiction Started With a Book and a Babysitting Job (Part 1)
Lacy is a wife, mother of four sons, author, women’s recovery coach, and advocate for female recovery efforts. She advocates for research, new treatment and recovery methods for women, and education of parents. She won’t stop talking and writing until every woman who struggles knows that she’s not the only…
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Why Boundaries in Porn Recovery Are Challenging
“To the extent that we can’t control something we don’t like, we fear it.” – John Z., Grace in Addiction Early recovery is monumentally difficult. Not only are porn addicts trying to achieve sobriety, but they and their spouses also contend with holding their marriages together. A significant challenge arrives…