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Why is my husband so angry? It all comes down to shame.
As I look back on almost seven years of treating wives of…
As I look back on almost seven years of treating wives of sex addicts I can only think of one who said her husband didn’t have serious issues with anger. Women share stories of their…
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3 Ways Your Porn Use Degrades Your Wife
When you value porn more than your wife, it destroys your marriage!…
When you value porn more than your wife, it destroys your marriage! She wants you to stop viewing it, yet you continue. She believes you don’t value her enough to quit. Sometimes she asks herself,…
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How to Approach Sex After Betrayal
Recently, Jake* contacted me via e-mail. He’d listened to almost every interview…
Recently, Jake* contacted me via e-mail. He’d listened to almost every interview we had done and agreed with almost everything we had said, except for this: Porn is not about sex, but about fantasy. After…
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6 Ways My Husband Helped Me Heal From Betrayal
Let’s say my husband is driving a car, and I’m in the…
Let’s say my husband is driving a car, and I’m in the passenger seat. He reaches for his phone to reply to a text message, and we get in a wreck. He’s okay, but my…
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Managing the Difficult Emotions of Relationship Betrayal
I started to feel it around mid-morning. My body felt hyper-sensitive, the…
I started to feel it around mid-morning. My body felt hyper-sensitive, the sun through the window hurt my skin. When the air came on, the cold air made my legs ache. My heart began to…
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How Broken Trust Regrows: 10 Stage Progression
How does broken trust in a marriage regrow? Growth in trust will…
How does broken trust in a marriage regrow? Growth in trust will require your spouse personally investing in change and your willingness to take relational risks. Your spouse’s growth alone will not create trust without…
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Stop the Abuse of Partners of Sex Addicts
Over the last decade, there have been a handful of professionals in…
Over the last decade, there have been a handful of professionals in the sex addiction treatment community who are trying to change the treatment of partners of sex addicts. This group is growing and has…
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3 Reasons Deception Is More Destructive than Porn for Your Wife
“I can’t keep doing this!” she screams with bulging eyes and face…
“I can’t keep doing this!” she screams with bulging eyes and face wrenched in a tormented mix of anger, fear, and pain. “I can’t keep going through this again and again. I feel like I…
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4 Things to Remember About Your Husband’s Porn Problem
When dealing with the porn addiction of a spouse, it’s really easy…
When dealing with the porn addiction of a spouse, it’s really easy to believe lies that make you feel inadequate. Here are the four most important things to remember about your husband’s porn problem. 1.…
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5 Horrible Ways to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Addiction
If you’re reading this, then you’ve probably wrestled with this question many…
If you’re reading this, then you’ve probably wrestled with this question many times before: “How do I tell my wife?” When you couldn’t come up with a good answer, you waited. She still doesn’t know.…