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How to Approach Sex After Betrayal
Recently, Jake* contacted me via e-mail. He’d listened to almost every interview…
Recently, Jake* contacted me via e-mail. He’d listened to almost every interview we had done and agreed with almost everything we had said, except for this: Porn is not about sex, but about fantasy. After…
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Fighting Sexual Sin with Joy in the Lord
Joy may not be the first thought you think of when it…
Joy may not be the first thought you think of when it comes to sexual sin. In my experience with working with those addicted to pornography, they often experience a lot of guilt and shame,…
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3 Accountability Lessons to Learn from Frodo and Sam
Great literature, film, and art can inform our souls and educate us…
Great literature, film, and art can inform our souls and educate us in the school of virtue. The Lord of the Rings by J.R.R. Tolkien, voted “the greatest book of the century” by a 1997…
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What do all porn users have in common?
John is a 38-year-old man addicted to porn. His wife works third…
John is a 38-year-old man addicted to porn. His wife works third shift each night which gives him ample opportunity to dip his heart and mind in the snares of pornography. About six months ago, Lexi, a…
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A Stranger Is Watching Your Daughter
Just typing the title to this blog post made me cringe. I…
Just typing the title to this blog post made me cringe. I have a daughter. She’s my everything. My firstborn. I guard her ferociously. But, technology has opened up new access points to our families.…
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No More: How Hitting Rock Bottom Helped Me Kick My Masturbation Habit
“No more _____.” I wrote this across the top of the January…
“No more _____.” I wrote this across the top of the January page of the following year’s calendar on New Year’s Eve approximately 20 years ago. I didn’t fill in the blank, but I knew…
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5 Warning Signs You’re Addicted to Porn
Many men who contact me for help in overcoming pornography use question…
Many men who contact me for help in overcoming pornography use question whether or not they really have an addiction to porn. Some simply don’t want to believe they could actually be addicted to the…
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Myth Busters: “I’ll stop looking at porn when I get married”
The TV show MythBusters is known for taking popular myths and showing…
The TV show MythBusters is known for taking popular myths and showing if they are true or not. More often than not, true to the show’s name, myths are “busted,” shown for the falsehoods they…
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How to Be a Porn Addict’s Best Friend
A friend of yours may be a porn addict, but if he’s…
A friend of yours may be a porn addict, but if he’s still struggling, he might not be a really close friend. Everything about being an addict screams isolation and shame. Fear can be a strong…
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6 Ways My Husband Helped Me Heal From Betrayal
Let’s say my husband is driving a car, and I’m in the…
Let’s say my husband is driving a car, and I’m in the passenger seat. He reaches for his phone to reply to a text message, and we get in a wreck. He’s okay, but my…