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How to Lose Your Desire for Porn and Lust
For many struggling with porn, their #1 goal is to stop looking…
For many struggling with porn, their #1 goal is to stop looking at it. This is why we install Covenant Eyes on our computers and have accountability partners ask us if we’ve stumbled this week…
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How Boundaries Saved Our Marriage (Part 3)
In Part One and Part Two of this series on boundaries and…
In Part One and Part Two of this series on boundaries and marriage, we’ve told you about our messy journey to recovery. Although 15 years ago we almost lost our marriage to pornography addiction, this…
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3 Ways Porn Hijacks Your Brain
Scrolling through the images at the bottom of the news site, Jack…
Scrolling through the images at the bottom of the news site, Jack lingers on one of them. He lingers a little too long. Jack doesn’t know it yet, but a hijacking is in progress. You’ve seen…
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Navigating the Holidays Alone
It seems the Hallmark-like images of holiday celebrations and Christmas romances are…
It seems the Hallmark-like images of holiday celebrations and Christmas romances are everywhere this time of year. For women married to active pornography users, these perfect Christmas card images can hijack our ability to regulate…
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Lust, Fantasies, and God’s Riches for Needy Souls
Have you ever had a dream, and I don’t mean a good…
Have you ever had a dream, and I don’t mean a good dream, but a raw, perverse, nasty, “I’d like to forget that as quickly as possible” kind of a dream? If not, that’s probably…
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4 Reasons Your Spouse May Keep Turning to Porn
My husband has been free from pornography for over four years, but…
My husband has been free from pornography for over four years, but I’m still discovering things about why he turned to porn all those decades ago. The truth? The reasons aren’t porn-specific. Porn, in many…
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Help Your Kids Avoid Porn: Don’t Treat Them the Same
You don’t necessarily want to treat all children the same when it…
You don’t necessarily want to treat all children the same when it comes to helping them avoid pornography. This may sound counterintuitive, but it is true. Any parent with multiple children knows the parenting style…
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Why Medicating Shame’s Pain with Porn Never Works
Shame is as old as Adam and Eve…well, almost. Genesis 2:24-25 says,…
Shame is as old as Adam and Eve…well, almost. Genesis 2:24-25 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the…
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4 Reasons Shame Cripples Spouses of Addicts (and How to Overcome It)
“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For…
“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For most healthy outsiders, the logical answer is, “You shouldn’t.” But for most spouses of sex addicts, the feeling of shame clings to us…
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Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing Book Review
“How did I get here?” It’s a common refrain for most people, but…
“How did I get here?” It’s a common refrain for most people, but it slices to the heart of the man or woman struggling with porn and unwanted sexual behaviors. Too often the question is rhetorical…