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Accountability and the Habit of Lying
“There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders,…
“There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest.” – The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous “We are a…
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Are You Pursuing Sexual Intimacy or Just Sexual Activity?
A growing trend in our culture is the separation of sex from…
A growing trend in our culture is the separation of sex from intimacy. Perhaps the most obvious example of this is the “hook up” culture, described by Dr. Lisa Wade in her book The Great American…
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2 Things Your Spouse Doesn’t Need to Know About Your Porn Use
If there are certain things you shouldn’t tell your spouse about your…
If there are certain things you shouldn’t tell your spouse about your porn addiction, it must mean there are important things s/he does needs to know. First and foremost, that you are using pornography. Confessing…
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Parents Make Little Headway in Porn Prevention Without Honesty
In my experience parents often become ineffective helping their children avoid pornography…
In my experience parents often become ineffective helping their children avoid pornography when they discover how honest they must be for that process to actually work. I’m not talking about the child’s honesty, but the…
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How to Lose Your Desire for Porn and Lust
For many struggling with porn, their #1 goal is to stop looking…
For many struggling with porn, their #1 goal is to stop looking at it. This is why we install Covenant Eyes on our computers and have accountability partners ask us if we’ve stumbled this week…
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How Boundaries Saved Our Marriage (Part 3)
In Part One and Part Two of this series on boundaries and…
In Part One and Part Two of this series on boundaries and marriage, we’ve told you about our messy journey to recovery. Although 15 years ago we almost lost our marriage to pornography addiction, this…
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3 Ways Porn Hijacks Your Brain
Scrolling through the images at the bottom of the news site, Jack…
Scrolling through the images at the bottom of the news site, Jack lingers on one of them. He lingers a little too long. Jack doesn’t know it yet, but a hijacking is in progress. You’ve seen…
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Navigating the Holidays Alone
It seems the Hallmark-like images of holiday celebrations and Christmas romances are…
It seems the Hallmark-like images of holiday celebrations and Christmas romances are everywhere this time of year. For women married to active pornography users, these perfect Christmas card images can hijack our ability to regulate…
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Lust, Fantasies, and God’s Riches for Needy Souls
Have you ever had a dream, and I don’t mean a good…
Have you ever had a dream, and I don’t mean a good dream, but a raw, perverse, nasty, “I’d like to forget that as quickly as possible” kind of a dream? If not, that’s probably…
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4 Reasons Your Spouse May Keep Turning to Porn
My husband has been free from pornography for over four years, but…
My husband has been free from pornography for over four years, but I’m still discovering things about why he turned to porn all those decades ago. The truth? The reasons aren’t porn-specific. Porn, in many…