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Trigger Alert! What’s Yours?
For those who want to end their use of pornography, the first…
For those who want to end their use of pornography, the first step is admitting the problem. After this, you need to identify your triggers. A trigger is a person, place, thing, emotion, or experience that…
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Why is my husband so angry? It all comes down to shame. (Part 2)
Read Part 1 of “Why is my husband so angry? It all…
Read Part 1 of “Why is my husband so angry? It all comes down to shame.” As a female sex addiction therapist I feel I am at a significant disadvantage. Sex addicts often started out…
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Why is my husband so angry? It all comes down to shame.
As I look back on almost seven years of treating wives of…
As I look back on almost seven years of treating wives of sex addicts I can only think of one who said her husband didn’t have serious issues with anger. Women share stories of their…
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Consumerism and the Culture of Porn
When visiting the public museum recently, my family and I made our…
When visiting the public museum recently, my family and I made our way to the upper floor that featured artifacts from what would be considered primitive cultures. People in these parts of the world do…
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3 Powerful Porn Triggers (And How to Overcome Them)
I call these three emotional states the “Devil’s Triangle of Triggers.” We…
I call these three emotional states the “Devil’s Triangle of Triggers.” We can’t handle them on our own, and they’ll often send you looking for porn before you know what hit you. Trigger 1: Helplessness Tom…
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3 Ways Your Porn Use Degrades Your Wife
When you value porn more than your wife, it destroys your marriage!…
When you value porn more than your wife, it destroys your marriage! She wants you to stop viewing it, yet you continue. She believes you don’t value her enough to quit. Sometimes she asks herself,…
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Why Marrying a Supermodel Won’t Satisfy
I remember the way I thought about marriage back when I was…
I remember the way I thought about marriage back when I was a single chap. I had determined that if I was ever going to get married (i.e. tied down to just one woman for…
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Dear Porn Addict, This Is Your Wife
Husbands addicted to porn are often totally ignorant to the relational carnage…
Husbands addicted to porn are often totally ignorant to the relational carnage it unleashes on their wife and loved ones once their addiction is exposed. Being caught as a porn addict is like dropping a…
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Why We Will Be Using Covenant Eyes for Life
We were crunching numbers, trying to make room in the budget for…
We were crunching numbers, trying to make room in the budget for something I can’t quite recall, when I asked my husband if we still needed to pay for Covenant Eyes. We were years down…
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How to Approach Sex After Betrayal
Recently, Jake* contacted me via e-mail. He’d listened to almost every interview…
Recently, Jake* contacted me via e-mail. He’d listened to almost every interview we had done and agreed with almost everything we had said, except for this: Porn is not about sex, but about fantasy. After…