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Shame’s Massive Role in Porn Use
Many of us tend to think we feel shame in response to…
Many of us tend to think we feel shame in response to using pornography. What might surprise you however is that the reverse is also true. The more we feel shame, the more we will…
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If You Love Her, Tell Her the Truth
Consistently, wives of sex addicts share with me how the lies and…
Consistently, wives of sex addicts share with me how the lies and secrets their husbands keep from them hurt more than the sexual acting out itself. I asked a few of these wives the question,…
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6 Easy Ways Your Child Can Bypass Your Internet Filter
Your internet filter won’t protect your kids from porn. If you’ve set…
Your internet filter won’t protect your kids from porn. If you’ve set up a filter, you obviously care about keeping the bad stuff from getting to your kids, or keeping your kids from getting to…
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Marriage Is Not the Answer to Your Desire for Sex
It’s a line often heard in well-intentioned lessons on sexual purity: God…
It’s a line often heard in well-intentioned lessons on sexual purity: God created sex. It’s His. Pornography and premarital sex are just distortions of what God made that is good: sex within marriage. Those sexual…
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Setting Up Your Covenant Eyes Account (30 Minutes That Can Change Your Life)
Confession: I can be a procrastinator. Over a year ago, my husband…
Confession: I can be a procrastinator. Over a year ago, my husband asked me to find a home for a huge pile of extra pillows stacked at the foot of our basement stairs. Guess where…
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The Worst Advice for Breaking a Porn Addiction
“Is the love of pleasure and amusement growing on you—gaining the power…
“Is the love of pleasure and amusement growing on you—gaining the power and authority over you? Is it dulling the keenness of your zest for spiritual pleasures? Is it making Bible study, prayer, communion with…
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3 Essential Responses to Your Spouse’s Betrayal Trauma Triggers
“What are you looking at?!” Lisa shrieks while her eyes bulge and…
“What are you looking at?!” Lisa shrieks while her eyes bulge and her body pulses with adrenaline. Doug looks up from his phone like a deer caught in the headlights. Panicked, he tries to reassure…
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Getting Sober in Just 30 Years
Recovery materials are replete with books on how to find sexual sobriety.…
Recovery materials are replete with books on how to find sexual sobriety. The “how-to” resources are almost limitless. Google “kicking the porn habit” and you will find dozens of articles on ways to find sobriety…
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Accountability and the Habit of Lying
“There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders,…
“There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest.” – The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous “We are a…
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Are You Pursuing Sexual Intimacy or Just Sexual Activity?
A growing trend in our culture is the separation of sex from…
A growing trend in our culture is the separation of sex from intimacy. Perhaps the most obvious example of this is the “hook up” culture, described by Dr. Lisa Wade in her book The Great American…