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How to Overcome Lust: 4 Tips for Teens
So, you’re a teenager and you’re battling lust. You know that lustful…
So, you’re a teenager and you’re battling lust. You know that lustful thoughts don’t honor God, and you also don’t like the out-of-control feeling of your sexual desires. It feels dirty—and scary. But it seems…
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God and Grit Kept Our Marriage Alive: Tonia’s Story
How much of our lives do we spend looking at others and…
How much of our lives do we spend looking at others and thinking about how perfect they look—almost like a Hallmark film? We learn it as little girls. The stories we hear end with “and…
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Fighting the Dragon of Porn: Brandon’s Story
John Eldredge in his book Wild at Heart writes: “In the heart of every…
John Eldredge in his book Wild at Heart writes: “In the heart of every man is a desperate desire for a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue.” I first read these…
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Perspectives on Willpower Series Recap
Psychologists love to research willpower and self-control. And with good reason—it takes…
Psychologists love to research willpower and self-control. And with good reason—it takes extraordinary effort and discipline to make your way in the world. Most people can benefit personally from figuring out how it works. The…
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“Help! My Wife Is Addicted to Porn!” What Husbands Need to Know
If you are a husband who just discovered your wife is addicted…
If you are a husband who just discovered your wife is addicted to porn, you are likely dealing with feelings of grief, betrayal, and confusion. Betrayal is one of the most devastating experiences in a…
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Personality vs. Porn: Perspectives on Willpower 7
We all know someone with apparently inexhaustible willpower. You know, the marathon…
We all know someone with apparently inexhaustible willpower. You know, the marathon runner. The friend from college who finished two degrees while working full-time. The co-worker who stares tirelessly at a screen all day, reading…
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Quitting Porn Fast and Slow: Perspectives on Willpower 6
Have you ever felt like you have a split personality? You have…
Have you ever felt like you have a split personality? You have the best intentions to get up early, work out, eat salad, and read good books. But when it comes right down to it,…
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The Process of Quitting Porn: Perspectives on Willpower 5
So far, the perspectives we’ve examined in this series have each focused…
So far, the perspectives we’ve examined in this series have each focused on one particular aspect of willpower: willpower itself, as a resource. There’s the relationship between your goals and willpower. We’ve considered the role…
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Godly Self-Care: Crash the Crash
After the traumatic discovery of your partner’s sex addiction, you are likely…
After the traumatic discovery of your partner’s sex addiction, you are likely to become consumed with your significant other. You suddenly feel very unsafe and feel like you don’t know this person with whom you…
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Accounting for Porn: Perspectives on Willpower 4
What is worth more to you: looking at porn or not looking…
What is worth more to you: looking at porn or not looking at porn? Think about your decisions like an accountant would. When you face the choice to look at porn or not look at…