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How to Stop Watching Porn: 6 Essential Steps to Quit

Last Updated: April 21, 2025

For some, pornography might seem like a harmless past-time, a not-too-serious guilty pleasure, or an embarrassing habit. You might wonder, why should I stop?

But maybe you’re one of the many who have realized the devastating effects that porn has on your life and relationships. Maybe you feel trapped and like you can’t stop watching porn.

If you’re wondering how to stop looking at porn, you’re not alone. Skim through the hundreds of comments below, and you’ll see. Quitting porn doesn’t have to be complicated, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Read on to learn the best way to stop porn for good.

Step 1: Acknowledge you have a problem.

If you feel like you’ve got porn under control and you can watch a little bit here and there without any problems, then chances are good that you don’t bother trying to quit. In fact, the most popular advice today will tell you that watching a little porn won’t hurt you. If that’s you, I recommend checking out these articles:

Do you have a strong reason to quit?

People who quit watching porn are people who recognized their need to change. For some of us, it takes a life-shaking event, such as getting caught by a spouse. For others, it’s simply the desire for something better than the emptiness of porn.  

You’ve got to understand that it’s a long-term commitment and keep your reasons for quitting in front of you. You’ve got to really want it so you can go on to step 2. 

Understand the benefits of quitting porn.

Try visualizing your life without porn: 

  • Would your marriage be better?  
  • If you’re single, would you feel more confident to pursue a relationship?  
  • Would you find freedom from guilt and shame? 
  • Would you free up wasted time to pursue your dreams?  

Make a giant list of every possible way you will benefit from quitting porn, and then post your top 1-3 reasons somewhere you’ll see it every day. To help you get started, we wrote a blog post on creating a unique list of how you’ll benefit from living porn-free.

When we turn to porn, it’s not always because we like porn itself. You may even hate pornography. But we want what porn promises: comfort for our loneliness, pleasure for our eyes, sexual fulfillment, etc. Don’t believe the lies. Porn won’t deliver what it promises you. 

Step 2: Learn what keeps you trapped.

To quit porn, you need to quit whatever it is that triggers you to watch porn. What are your vulnerable moments? Is it a particular TV show? Is it having your laptop and mobile phone next to your bed? Perhaps it’s having a computer/device without accountability software on it. Ask the following questions (better yet, have a close friend or ally ask you): 

  • What was I doing? 
  • What was I thinking?  
  • How was I feeling?  

As you begin to find patterns in your temptation, you’ll need to create a game plan to navigate the vulnerable situations or avoid them altogether. 

Understand the roots of your struggle.

There are predictable patterns when it comes to habitual struggles with pornography. When we understand the science and psychology of what’s happening, we can create a better plan for recovery. We have two posts that can help you with this.

Step 3: Open up about your struggle with porn.

Porn plays on the power of secrecy and shame to trap people. We feel shame and embarrassment, which make us fearful of reaching out for the help we need. One of the biggest lies of porn is that you’re better off hiding your struggle than admitting to failure.  

Confess your problem to someone.

Maybe you’ve followed the breadcrumbs and learned to recognize some of your triggers. But, you will not be free from your struggle with porn until you open up about it. These articles are filled with tips on sharing your struggle with porn:

Get counseling or therapy.

Seeking professional help may feel scary or shameful. But speaking to a qualified counselor or sex addiction therapist can change your life. An expert will understand the root causes of porn addiction and help you walk through the steps of recovery.

We’ve written a post to help you find a Christian counselor or therapist.

Step 4: Eliminate triggering media. 

If you want to stop watching porn, it makes sense to get rid of your porn. But, you also need to get rid of any other content or media that triggers your porn use or is just unhelpful in your porn recovery journey.

Remember, in Question 2, we talked about identifying your porn triggers. If you identified any media habits that often precede porn use, stop using that type of media—maybe it’s certain music, shows, or social media in general. Just get rid of it. If you want to quit porn, you need to be intentional about all the types of media you consume.

You need to be honest about what’s triggering for you and be sure to put it aside. You may want to involve your ally in the process to help you make tough decisions as well as to keep you on track.

Step 5: Get a porn blocker.

A porn blocker alone won’t be enough to quit porn. But, a porn blocker can play an important role in your porn recovery journey, especially for those early in recovery or those deeply enmeshed in porn. Make it difficult to access porn!

Some people will ask someone to hold on to a tempting smartphone or computer for a time until their porn habit is better under control or other protections are in place. As with Step 4, the key here is being honest with yourself and your allies about where porn is coming into your life and then doing whatever it takes to remove access to it.

Too extreme? Remember Steps 1 and 2: How badly do you want to quit, and how willing are you to try something new to keep making progress on the journey?  

Step 6: Ask a friend to hold you accountable.

On a difficult journey, the people alongside you can determine your success or failure. And, if you look back over the previous five steps, you can see that you really need accountability for each one to make it stick. Accountability is the glue that holds your plan together.

Remember Step 1? You often need accountability to remind you of your reasons for quitting porn in the first place. Step 2 is about trying something different, and accountability can show you where you’re falling back into the same old patterns that have kept you trapped in porn for so long. Admitting your failures to someone is step 3, which is a critical part of accountability.

If you attempt steps 4 and 5 on your own (get rid of all porn and block new porn from coming in), it’s easy to leave yourself loopholes. When you ask someone to keep you accountable, you’re asking them to help you lock down the loopholes that have always allowed you to slip back into porn.

Since most people access porn on their computers and smartphones, it’s essential to have an accountability app. Covenant Eyes Screen Accountability monitors your devices for porn and sends your partner a report of what you’re looking at on your devices.

Find an ally to keep you accountable for quitting porn.

A trusted friend or mentor can make a great ally. The resources below share helpful info on finding the right ally for you:  

What does accountability look like in quitting porn?

Having Covenant Eyes removes a lot of the ambiguity in your accountability relationship. When you have it on your devices, it removes the secrecy and helps you live honestly and openly with the people you trust the most. This is vital because secrecy and shame are powerful forces that can drive you back to porn.

It’s not enough to download an app. You need to connect regularly with your ally. Accountability often fails when people only meet sporadically. Many experts advise daily check-ins, and this is especially important in the early stages of quitting porn. (Covenant Eyes Screen Accountability reports go out daily by default). Connecting with your ally could be as simple as replying to a Covenant Eyes report or following up with a text message.

  1. ArthurMartin

    I began struggling with porn since I was 20 (I am now 39). At first it was occasional, then after I graduated (age 23) and for at least 5 years it was a constant viewing of gay themed videos and porn. I got married and started a family; my porn usage did decrease, but I still had the urges for gay porn. Now, fastforward nearly 11 years, I confess that I go to explicit (porn or non porn) every now and then. I have two accountability brothers whom I tell my shortcomings; one of them knows everything, including specific deeper struggles. This has been very helpful as my slip-ups have decreased dramatically. Nevertheless, I still feel alone in my struggle with same-sex attraction, and as mention before, every once in a while a sucumb to explicit content. I hate having this struggle and have cried in dispair alone, praying for God to forgive me for my lustful thoughts over men. I don’t know what else to do… Just writing all this makes me one to cry; I have a hard time forgiving myself and believing I am worth it to God. If there’s anyone here who share similar a similar situation, please do share. I don’t know anything anymore….

  2. Cool Post today’s must needed content in this article. The blog clearly describes bad effects of watching porn in mobile and other devices. it is the worldwide problem. There are many apps to avoid watching porn like mobicip.

  3. Little sunshine

    I have read the bad effects of porn , I have read what the pain of porn stars , I have tried my best, I have promised God so many times but …but I can’t stop.

    Somebody help me please , I can’t take it anymore …I hate it , I hate myself , I fucking hate it … I really can’t take it anymore.

    I am hurting people , I am hurting myself , I told my friends but they aren’t encouraging me to stop …. I don’t know what to do ..

    I am sure God hates me so much by now … I am bisexual , I masturbate and even love porn now? I am disgusting…

    Just help me somebody please help me … I don’t know what to do … please please help me .

    • Kay Bruner

      Hey there.

      I suspect that the shame you’re experiencing around your sexuality and your expression of your sexuality has taken on a life of its own at this point. The porn is probably really not the issue. It’s the shame. I know for sure that God does not hate you, and I know for sure that God does not want you to hate yourself. God doesn’t hate you if you masturbate, God doesn’t hate you if you look at porn. God doesn’t hate you if your bisexual or gay. That’s the whole point of unconditional love: it’s unconditional! Our shame is what tells us that we’re unloveable. And so shame is the thing I would focus on. I think you’d do well to find a therapist who can help you process what this shame is all about. (Be sure to choose a therapist who is LGBTQ affirming, who will not shame you for being bisexual, but will affirm your worth as a person, including your sexual orientation.) I think once you aren’t feeling so horrible about yourself, you’ll find that the compulsive need to do things you feel ashamed of–that will diminish. Meet the underlying need, and you won’t need the surface behaviors.

      Peace to you, friend,
      Kay

  4. David Sommer

    I hope and pray I can keep this up: 23 months porn free and 11 months masturbation free but I get worried I’ll go back cause I love acting out and did it for 53 yrs. I know it’s Jesus that does it for me , but worried my flesh will take over. Just saying. Good luck and love you everybody else, masturbation is THE toughest addiction I’ve ever faced.

  5. Owusu George

    I want to stop this act.

  6. CoolGospel

    To be able to quit porn you need to replace it with something, maybe pray, sing or exercise.

    But the ultimate is the Holy Spirit, he can help you quit porn.

    • A

      I totally agree with you

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