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How Long Will It Take My Spouse to Heal from My Betrayal?
In this article I will use the terms wife or she for…
In this article I will use the terms wife or she for the betrayed spouse because that is the focus of my work. However, the information applies regardless of whether the betrayer was the husband…
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12 Secret (and not-so-secret) Ways Porn Changed Our Marriage
I will never say I’m grateful for pornography or that my husband,…
I will never say I’m grateful for pornography or that my husband, Craig, brought it into our marriage. However, I am grateful that God used his addiction to refine us and give us the marriage…
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7 Lessons from the Pit of Betrayal
“I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard…
“I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock…
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5 Characteristics of Men Who Help Their Wives Heal After Betrayal
George and Linda were 18 months into recovery following Linda’s discovery of…
George and Linda were 18 months into recovery following Linda’s discovery of George’s sex addiction. Yet things didn’t seem much better between them. “I don’t get it,” George lamented. “I’ve gone to groups. I’ve been…
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How to Restore Your Self-Worth After Competing with Pixels
It happened again just last week. In a support group I facilitate…
It happened again just last week. In a support group I facilitate for wives of sex addicts, a new client said, with shock resonating, “I just don’t get it. You all are such beautiful, intelligent,…
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When Holidays Aren’t Happy: 4 Ways to Deal with Grief and Porn Addiction
My friend sent me a SOS text the other night. She had…
My friend sent me a SOS text the other night. She had discovered a movie on their cable account that she suspected her husband had watched. Her text contained the normal anger and anxiety that…
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3 Common Lies When Porn Invades Your Engagement
Helpless, he looks at his fiancé as she sobs uncontrollably as they…
Helpless, he looks at his fiancé as she sobs uncontrollably as they sit in my office. It is three short months before the wedding and she just found out he has a problem with porn.…
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5 Steps to Continue Healing from Betrayal Trauma
Healing from betrayal trauma can be a long journey. If you and…
Healing from betrayal trauma can be a long journey. If you and your husband have made it through the first long and difficult stage of recovery from sexual betrayal trauma–establishing emotional, physical, and sexual safety–you…
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5 Ways Sex Gets Better After Giving Up Porn
Everyone wants to have better sex, right? No one explained to me…
Everyone wants to have better sex, right? No one explained to me before marriage how pornography use would affect my sex life. Everyone said it was bad, but no one really said why. As far…
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Fear of Vulnerability: An Intimacy Disorder or a Human Condition?
Last night as I watched one of my favorite TV shows I…
Last night as I watched one of my favorite TV shows I found myself doing something I know we all have done before. We’ve all yelled at the TV screen, saying something like, “Why don’t…