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How a Dream About Sex Changed My Marriage
As a newly married couple, my husband and I were naturally active…
As a newly married couple, my husband and I were naturally active in the bedroom. So, you can imagine my surprise when four months later I found out he was struggling with masturbation. I was…
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4 Tips for Your Mental Health While Your Spouse Quits Porn
The fact that your spouse has committed to kicking his/her porn habit…
The fact that your spouse has committed to kicking his/her porn habit is huge. Even admitting that porn is a problem is a big deal—one can’t attempt to heal from a sickness s/he won’t acknowledge…
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3 Intentional Ways to Restore Emotional Safety After Betrayal
Everyone needs a home base where he or she feels safe from…
Everyone needs a home base where he or she feels safe from the outside world. Ideally, our home with our family should be such a place. Unfortunately, when compulsive sexual behavior is present in the…
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Sending Nudes to Your Spouse: For Your Eyes Only?
I remember when celebrity and actress Jennifer Lawrence was the victim of…
I remember when celebrity and actress Jennifer Lawrence was the victim of account hacking, and a variety of pictures of her in various stages of undress were downloaded and then distributed without her permission. When…
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The Danger of Just Watching and the Power of Being Seen
Something happened to me when I started watching porn. I didn’t notice…
Something happened to me when I started watching porn. I didn’t notice the change right away, but my wife could sense that something odd was going on. There was an unfamiliar look in my eyes,…
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How the Betrayed Gets Stuck and 8 Steps to Get Moving Again
On July 19, 2019, at a Six Flags amusement park in Bowie,…
On July 19, 2019, at a Six Flags amusement park in Bowie, Maryland, roller coaster passengers spent over two hours stuck at the top of the ride. Eventually, all of the passengers were rescued unharmed.…
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Why Surrendering to God Doesn’t Mean You’re Giving Up the Battle
Surrender is hard. Surrender is especially hard when you’re a type-A, emotional…
Surrender is hard. Surrender is especially hard when you’re a type-A, emotional caregiver who struggles with anxiety. Hello, perfect storm. I want to fix everything. I want people to be happy and healthy and free. My first…
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10 Things Forgiveness Is Not
Forgiveness is such a beautiful concept. We certainly welcome it when we…
Forgiveness is such a beautiful concept. We certainly welcome it when we have made a mistake, acted inappropriately, or hurt someone else. But forgiveness becomes difficult when we are the ones who have been severely…
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Have Porn Addiction, Will Travel
We have a closet that perpetually needs to be cleaned out and…
We have a closet that perpetually needs to be cleaned out and organized. It seems to attract junk on a daily basis. It’s also the holding spot for all things craft, which means it receives…
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Toxic Shame Has No Place in Marriage Restoration
In this article I will use female pronouns for the betrayed spouse…
In this article I will use female pronouns for the betrayed spouse and male pronouns for the addict, because that is the focus of my work. Also, parts of this article focus on unique ways…