Most Recent Posts in Defeat Lust & Pornography
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3 Powerful Porn Triggers (And How to Overcome Them)
I call these three emotional states the “Devil’s Triangle of Triggers.” We…
I call these three emotional states the “Devil’s Triangle of Triggers.” We can’t handle them on our own, and they’ll often send you looking for porn before you know what hit you. Trigger 1: Helplessness Tom…
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Why Marrying a Supermodel Won’t Satisfy
I remember the way I thought about marriage back when I was…
I remember the way I thought about marriage back when I was a single chap. I had determined that if I was ever going to get married (i.e. tied down to just one woman for…
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Myth Busters: “I’ll stop looking at porn when I get married”
The TV show MythBusters is known for taking popular myths and showing…
The TV show MythBusters is known for taking popular myths and showing if they are true or not. More often than not, true to the show’s name, myths are “busted,” shown for the falsehoods they…
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19 Possible Motives Triggering Your Porn Consumption
Often triggers and motive are treated as two distinct things, and there…
Often triggers and motive are treated as two distinct things, and there are differences. But those differences are more akin to two sides of the same coin than apples and oranges. In this post we’ll…
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True Story: How Michael Overcame Porn
Our stories matter. Each of us has a compelling story to tell. When…
Our stories matter. Each of us has a compelling story to tell. When we share, we can’t always anticipate how our story will impact the people around us, but sometimes the impact is significant. Jesus made…
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The Dark Side of the Brain
Every Christmas, Andrea and I have the same discussion about where to…
Every Christmas, Andrea and I have the same discussion about where to place the Star Wars ornaments on the Christmas tree. I have a decent-sized collection, and early in our marriage, I even had a…
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If You Think You’re Alone In Your Struggle, You’re Wrong.
“Um, just so you know. I’m the one with the problem. I’m…
“Um, just so you know. I’m the one with the problem. I’m not calling because my husband or boyfriend has a problem. I’m the addict. Is the counselor comfortable talking to women?” “Yes, he talks…
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The Importance of Accountability
Is accountability powerful enough to help change a heart? Sixteen years ago, Covenant Eyes…
Is accountability powerful enough to help change a heart? Sixteen years ago, Covenant Eyes was founded by two individuals on the simple premise that it is, and today the company has a team of over 150 people who base…
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Escaping the Lies of Pornography
In his book Surfing For God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual…
In his book Surfing For God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle, author and counselor Michael John Cusick describes the crafty and effective ways in which our enemy draws us into pornography through a…
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In Case of a Porn Relapse
“Great effort is required to arrest decay and restore vigor.” –Horace “Relapse”…
“Great effort is required to arrest decay and restore vigor.” –Horace “Relapse” means “deterioration after a period of improvement.” It’s an enemy to avoid in addiction recovery, and a porn relapse can make life hard…