Most Recent Posts in Defeat Lust & Pornography
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Women and Masturbation: Talking About It Openly
Lust is not a guy problem–it’s a human problem. If you’re a…
Lust is not a guy problem–it’s a human problem. If you’re a woman who has struggled with any sort of lustful sin habit, including masturbation, you’re not alone. Millions of Christian women (single and married) are…
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Where to Find the Boldness to Share Your Porn Secret
Four years into my marriage I was buried in guilt and shame…
Four years into my marriage I was buried in guilt and shame due to a porn addiction that no one (including my husband) knew about. The secrecy was killing me inside. Every single day I…
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The Two Most Important Questions to Ask If You Have a Setback
Recently, a married man from a support group I lead had two…
Recently, a married man from a support group I lead had two setbacks (or relapses) with porn on the same day. But rather than quitting, he sheepishly retorted, “It was just what the doctor ordered!”…
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How to Find an Accountability Partner Who Can Really Help You
After a lifetime of habitual sexual sin, today I’m still living in…
After a lifetime of habitual sexual sin, today I’m still living in freedom from my sexual addiction and able to mentor others who struggle so they too can experience the freedom that I now enjoy.…
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How Building “Negative Emotion Tolerance” Helps Us Pursue Sexual Purity
Admittedly, the title of this post is a mouthful, but if you’ll…
Admittedly, the title of this post is a mouthful, but if you’ll stick with me it won’t be as complicated as it sounds, and it will be worth your time. What Is “Negative Emotion Tolerance”?…
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Am I a Sex Addict? Self-Assessment And Help Guide
Have you ever secretly wondered, “Am I a sex addict?” or “Am…
Have you ever secretly wondered, “Am I a sex addict?” or “Am I addicted to sex?” (because you might not be comfortable labeling yourself as an “addict”). If so, we will explain the signs, stages,…
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Why Can’t I Stop Watching Porn? 3 Reasons It’s Hard to Quit
I can’t stop watching porn. No really, I want to. I have made…
I can’t stop watching porn. No really, I want to. I have made promises and tried fresh starts in the New Year. I have even gone forward in church, gotten down on my knees, and begged…
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Trigger Alert! What’s Yours?
For those who want to end their use of pornography, the first…
For those who want to end their use of pornography, the first step is admitting the problem. After this, you need to identify your triggers. A trigger is a person, place, thing, emotion, or experience that…
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3 Powerful Porn Triggers (And How to Overcome Them)
I call these three emotional states the “Devil’s Triangle of Triggers.” We…
I call these three emotional states the “Devil’s Triangle of Triggers.” We can’t handle them on our own, and they’ll often send you looking for porn before you know what hit you. Trigger 1: Helplessness Tom…
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Why Marrying a Supermodel Won’t Satisfy
I remember the way I thought about marriage back when I was…
I remember the way I thought about marriage back when I was a single chap. I had determined that if I was ever going to get married (i.e. tied down to just one woman for…