Most Recent Posts in Defeat Lust & Pornography
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Trauma and Porn: The Potential Link
Have you ever wondered where addictions, like the compulsive use of pornography,…
Have you ever wondered where addictions, like the compulsive use of pornography, come from? Why do some people get addicted to things that other people can do without ever getting addicted? It’s a good question,…
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Relapse: Preventing a Slip from Becoming a Slide
In your attempts to maintain purity from pornography you’ve probably asked yourself,…
In your attempts to maintain purity from pornography you’ve probably asked yourself, “Is every slip a relapse? Does every bad choice mean I’m ‘starting over’? I feel trapped. How can I not expect myself to…
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Pornography Damaged My View of Sex: Jessica Harris’ Story
“You need to stop viewing your past with pornography as addiction and…
“You need to stop viewing your past with pornography as addiction and sin and start viewing it as trauma and abuse.” I sat in a chair across from my counselor, weeks away from my wedding,…
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Redeeming the Pain: Marnie’s Story
For 20 years, I thought I was the only one: the only…
For 20 years, I thought I was the only one: the only woman, especially a supposedly Christian woman, who harbored shameful sexual secrets. I did everything I could to hide them and everything I could…
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How to Experience Healthy Sexuality in a Broken World
Most of us think about sexuality as a very private compartment of…
Most of us think about sexuality as a very private compartment of our lives. Even in the innocence of childhood, we were subtly taught to treat everything sexual differently. We learned special names for our…
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Survey Shows That Women Feel Isolated in Their Struggle With Porn
One of the problems of working in the field of porn addiction…
One of the problems of working in the field of porn addiction and recovery is that many of us tend to assume certain things about porn users. We tend to stereotype them as men married…
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50 Things to Do Instead of Watching Porn
So you’re bored. Porn seems like a good way to fill time,…
So you’re bored. Porn seems like a good way to fill time, right? Wrong. When you find yourself with nothing to do, it’s easy to turn to porn. Unfortunately, this only leads to false satisfaction…
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15 Coping Strategies to Help You Stay Porn-Free
So, you’ve made the courageous commitment to stop looking at porn. Congratulations!…
So, you’ve made the courageous commitment to stop looking at porn. Congratulations! A very commendable and healthy life change. Then, reality hits. You find that just because you made a commitment, success is not guaranteed.…
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The Ultimate Guide to Identifying (and Redirecting) Your Porn Triggers
The great military strategist Sun Tzu once said, “If you know the…
The great military strategist Sun Tzu once said, “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.” In the battle against porn, knowing your triggers and…
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3 Ways to Break the Trigger of Boredom
What drives you to porn? What are the specific triggers that cause…
What drives you to porn? What are the specific triggers that cause you to crave it? There may be a number of triggers. You’re hungry. You’re anrgy. You had a bad day at work. You’re…