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Noah Filipiak is a pastor and the author of Beyond the Battle: A Man's Guide to his Identity in Christ in an Oversexualized World (Zondervan)He also hosts The Flip Side Podcast. If you desire to be free from lust, porn, and fantasy, you can join Noah and his team in an online small group at Beyond the Battle, or get the leader guide to run your own group.

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Women Are Daughters, Not Objects

I’m a very outnumbered man in my household. My wife and I had our third daughter this summer, to go along with our 3- and 5-year-olds. Even my dog is a girl! I am deeply…

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5 Reasons Pastors Shouldn’t Talk About Porn (Sarcasm Alert!)

Because no one in your church is looking at porn. Sure, 79% of men ages 18 to 30 are looking at porn once a month and 63% are looking at it several times a week. It…

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Myth Busters: “I’ll stop looking at porn when I get married”

The TV show MythBusters is known for taking popular myths and showing if they are true or not.  More often than not, true to the show’s name, myths are “busted,” shown for the falsehoods they…

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The Growl of an Empty Stomach

Although this is written in the first person as a man, it applies identically to both genders.  Trying to include male and female pronouns got to be too cumbersome! Ladies, please read and translate as…

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If you are watching “Game of Thrones,” you are watching porn.

The hit HBO series Game of Thrones has won 26 Primetime Emmy Awards, including Outstanding Drama Series in 2015, and has 18.6 million people watching each episode, an HBO record.  That’s roughly the same population…

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How to Love Your Spouse When They Don’t Love You Back

A marriage strategy made popular by The Five Love Languages book and others like it is that if you love your spouse, they will love you back. Many a client has walked into a marriage…

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Our Culture’s Shattered Dream: The Best of Both Worlds When It Comes to Sex

Food that is delicious, but also healthy. A house that is large, but inexpensive. Living in Michigan in the summer, but Florida in the winter! It is safe to say that we love the best…

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Porn is Not Your Problem. Entitlement Is.

The greatest enemy of your marriage is not pornography. It is not lust. It is not fantasy. It is entitlement. My wife and I were both virgins when we got married. My church upbringing and…

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License to Lust: How Porn Trains Objectification

What is a woman? Is she a collection of body parts? Is she made of plastic? Or is she a whole person with a soul, full of all the things that make a person human:…