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Accountability is not a last resort. It’s a lifestyle.

Last Updated: May 31, 2024

When I visit churches or interact online with Christians to talk about the idea of accountability, I often detect an undertow of shame.

Often Christians pursue accountability in order to put to death some nasty habit in their lives or to decrease temptation. This is the vibe I pick up from them: “I want God to change my desires and my heart, and I know he will in time. But meanwhile, my accountability partners help keep me on track.”

Notice the dichotomy. “We shouldn’t really need accountability,” they think. “Accountability is just about me being afraid of having an awkward conversation about my failures. The fear keeps sin at bay. I know God wants me to be driven by higher motivations, and one day I will ditch the accountability and experience real Christian freedom.”

I believe it is this kind of thinking about accountability that cripples the church.

A New Paradigm of Accountability

Okay, it isn’t new. It’s actually very old—as old as the New Testament itself.

The book of Hebrews gives us a great picture of what accountability was meant to look like. The author believes wholeheartedly that the new covenant has been inaugurated, and he believes Christians should stand firmly in blessings and benefits of that covenant. But he is not so optimistic that he turns a blind eye to the ongoing impact of sin in the church.

When it comes to our sanctification, the author of Hebrews is very clear: one of God’s primary means of making us holy is through quality relationships in the church. Not a crutch. Not a last resort. But rather a chosen means of transformation that is perilous to neglect.

Two Examples

Take Hebrews 10:23-25 for example. The primary concern of the author here is to see his readers persevere in their faith right up to the end of their lives—to hold on to the hope they have in Christ. How will this happen? By stirring up one another to love and good deeds and meeting together often.

“Encourage one another,” he says. This word means to call someone to your side in order to strengthen them with your words. It refers to both “being there” for someone and having the right words to say. In the original language, “encourage” refers to a variety of conversations—instructing, comforting, admonishing, rebuking, warning, urging, begging, consoling—any timely words your friend needs to hear to strengthen his or her heart.

Or take Hebrews 3:13. After a dire warning about falling away from the living God, the author gives us the command: “But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called ‘today,’ that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.”

Catch the importance of what the author is saying: There is a level of daily interaction we are meant to have in the body of Christ that helps us to see how sin is operating at the heart-level in our lives. Sin has a deceiving, heart-hardening effect in our lives. But God has given us one another to see into each other’s lives, to spot the sins we are unwilling or unable to see in ourselves.

Sanctification is a Community Project

Accountability is about giving not only an account of my temptations and sins to another; it is about opening my heart to someone in a way that lets them shine the light of God’s truth into me.

Call accountability a crutch, if you must. But if you do, remember that as long as you are on this side of glory, broken men and women will always need crutches. God’s ordinary means of sanctifying you is found in the people of God, filled with the Spirit of God, molded by the Word of God.

  1. I am a 55 year old man who learned of God from attending Catholic grade school. Over the years God was only sought out through crises. I have had short periods of seeking him out :Lord God, thru Jesus Christ by the Holy Spirit who lives In me. I have been attending CrossWay Community Church Bristol WI. and have attended every prgram offered then became a member, thru membership process. It is a Gospel centered people loveing church. I have been there over 2yrs. my problem is I don’t ever put the effort in and lifestyle changes needed to stick anything out for long periods. I have never been dedicated to anything, even the things I like. I used to do drugs and liked it but even in that my lazyness over rode my adiction that I quit, now that didn’t work for my alcholism, our Lord stept in on that one, almost 3years sober now. I find myself miserably strugeling, sliping away again. I have a friend a counseler, paster in training at church that we meet together witch is becomeing less frequent and I am scared ! I want to thank you for the teaching. I needed this time this morning with our Lord and with you. he is telling me I have to tell Steve at our lunch meeting after church this Sunday I need more intentionly intrusive Christ centered Grace driven gidence, instruction beond what I might be comfortable with. At this point I will change or fall away to my sin and old ways anyway. It does not work to try to live in Gods Grace and in the world. Please Pray for me ! I thank Our Lord Jesus Christ for his calling me to him that is my hope and you brothers in him in love that we all might grow in him that is our savation ! Thank You ! Clarence M Hagan Jr. Kenosha WI.

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