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Rebuilding Trust in a Relationship Wounded by Porn
Friedrich Nietzsche’s words represent the heart of every betrayed spouse: “I’m not…
Friedrich Nietzsche’s words represent the heart of every betrayed spouse: “I’m not upset that you lied to me. I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” As painful as the discovery is, the…
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6 Ways Youth Leaders Can Help Their Students Overcome Porn
That moment when one of your students tells you about their struggle…
That moment when one of your students tells you about their struggle with pornography…it is a vulnerable and agonizing moment. It’s also a holy one. Any moment of true confession is a holy one. Praise…
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Relapse: Preventing a Slip from Becoming a Slide
In your attempts to maintain purity from pornography you’ve probably asked yourself,…
In your attempts to maintain purity from pornography you’ve probably asked yourself, “Is every slip a relapse? Does every bad choice mean I’m ‘starting over’? I feel trapped. How can I not expect myself to…
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Five Ways to Be a Better Ally
Every morning, I wake up to a couple dozen new emails. Most…
Every morning, I wake up to a couple dozen new emails. Most of them are my daily reports on the 25 men who have asked me to be their “ally” for Covenant Eyes. I ask…
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10 Phrases Every Person Overcoming Porn Needs to Hear
As an ally or friend to someone working to overcome pornography, knowing…
As an ally or friend to someone working to overcome pornography, knowing what to say to them through their inevitable ups and downs can be challenging. You may not even have any idea of what…
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5 Tips to Maintain a Porn-Free Marriage
We’ve all been there. Popcorn and beverage in hand. Comfy couch, warm…
We’ve all been there. Popcorn and beverage in hand. Comfy couch, warm blanket and a remote. You settle in with the spouse for a movie. Cue intro music, when, suddenly, a hot, heavy, lust-filled scene…
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3 Ways to Use Your Covenant Eyes Report More Effectively
Covenant Eyes Screen Accountability is a powerful tool for quitting porn, nurturing…
Covenant Eyes Screen Accountability is a powerful tool for quitting porn, nurturing significant relationships, or simply encouraging and maintaining healthy digital habits. But how exactly can you use the Covenant Eyes reports for the greatest…
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Pornography Damaged My View of Sex: Jessica Harris’ Story
“You need to stop viewing your past with pornography as addiction and…
“You need to stop viewing your past with pornography as addiction and sin and start viewing it as trauma and abuse.” I sat in a chair across from my counselor, weeks away from my wedding,…
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Porn Made Me Feel Like a Bad Parent: Barb’s Story
Five years ago, I learned my son was struggling with pornography. I…
Five years ago, I learned my son was struggling with pornography. I was shocked and devastated. Feeling guilty and hopeless, I struggled to sleep and cried endlessly. I couldn’t understand how this had happened. He…
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Finding Healing Through the Betrayal Trauma Model
This article is written from the perspective of men struggling sexually and…
This article is written from the perspective of men struggling sexually and women in the Betrayal Trauma position. This can occur in both directions where the wife struggles and her husband is experiencing Betrayal Trauma.…