Over the past few years, I’ve been in a fortunate position to be able to minister to many men locally and across the United States who struggle with an addiction to pornography. Pornography is a huge issue inside and outside the church. Based on the things I’ve learned in ministry,…
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For Men Addicted to Porn: 8 Ways to Rebuild Trust with Your Wife
When a woman discovers her husband has been watching porn behind her back, it can feel absolutely devastating. It is a traumatic discovery in the truest sense of the word—the wife undergoes terrible trauma. These women often begin to doubt themselves, caught in the immense insecurity of feeling the need to compete…
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The Sex Buffet: How Availability Changes the Way Culture Sees Women
I was at our local grocery store the other day in the checkout aisle when I saw her. I had never seen anything this disturbing in my grocery store before. There she was, right in front of my eyes without a shirt on. I’m not exaggerating here. Thankfully she was wearing…
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For Allies: How to Respond When Your Friend Looks at Porn
Brian hopped on his laptop to see if any grad schools had gotten back to him yet. He knew he had just sent out his transcripts an hour before, and he knew that clicking the refresh button on his browser had no scientific ability to generate new emails that had…
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Do You Have the Emotional Intelligence to Quit Porn?
“Yeah, I would say Kevin is making good progress with his pornography addiction,” Carol told me during a couple’s session when I asked if she thought her husband was on the right path of recovery. “But there’s still something wrong. He doesn’t talk, except to give one-word answers, and I…
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10 Gospel-Centered Accountability Principles (or, How a Puritan Might Run an Accountability Group)
How do we slay the power of sin in us? What means has God given us to destroy sinful lusts? Too often we look for the answer to that question on a vertical plane only: we expect sin-killing power to flow through prayer, fasting, Scripture meditation, or some other personal spiritual…
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CS Lewis on Lust
What CS Lewis wrote on lust in The Great Divorce
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Have Yourself a Merry Little (Porn-Free) Christmas
A classic movie, Meet Me in St. Louis, was released weeks before Christmas in 1944. Judy Garland played the leading role, as a young woman seeking to comfort her sister in the face of their father moving the family to New York City against their wishes. Garland sang the following…
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5 Secrets to Walking in the Spirit
The following is adapted from Your Brain on Porn, a free ebook available from Covenant Eyes. The Bible does not describe us merely as wayward, broken, or needing a moral boost but as those who are dead in sin (Ephesians 2:1). Dead men and women do not just need recovery;…
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6 Ways Youth Leaders Can Help Their Students Overcome Porn
That moment when one of your students tells you about their struggle with pornography…it is a vulnerable and agonizing moment. It’s also a holy one. Any moment of true confession is a holy one. Praise God for it. First Things First Here are three things you want to communicate right…
