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4 Reasons Your Spouse May Keep Turning to Porn
My husband has been free from pornography for over four years, but…
My husband has been free from pornography for over four years, but I’m still discovering things about why he turned to porn all those decades ago. The truth? The reasons aren’t porn-specific. Porn, in many…
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4 Reasons Shame Cripples Spouses of Addicts (and How to Overcome It)
“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For…
“My husband is the sex addict; why should I feel shame?” For most healthy outsiders, the logical answer is, “You shouldn’t.” But for most spouses of sex addicts, the feeling of shame clings to us…
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Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing Book Review
“How did I get here?” It’s a common refrain for most people, but…
“How did I get here?” It’s a common refrain for most people, but it slices to the heart of the man or woman struggling with porn and unwanted sexual behaviors. Too often the question is rhetorical…
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Advice for Parents Feeling Betrayed and Deceived by Their Teen Addict
I am a mom of four beautiful children. They each have their…
I am a mom of four beautiful children. They each have their positive and negative traits. Each has made me laugh and feel pride at their accomplishments, and each has disappointed me and fallen short…
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What the Bible Says About Premarital Sex
I’ve heard it said that the Bible doesn’t mention premarital sex as…
I’ve heard it said that the Bible doesn’t mention premarital sex as a sin. There are major implications to this on two levels. One, there is the simple and important question of knowing what is…
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The Problem With “Mommy Porn”
Traditionally, we have often thought of pornography as a struggle for men.…
Traditionally, we have often thought of pornography as a struggle for men. However, studies like those conducted by Covenant Eyes show that porn use among women is rapidly increasing, particularly among younger females. While some…
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How to Preach About Porn Without Filling Your Email Inbox
Your Church Probably Needs to Talk More About Pornography “Now, I know…
Your Church Probably Needs to Talk More About Pornography “Now, I know I’m going to get a lot of emails about this…” It was a joke Noel made often. Noel is the lead teaching pastor…
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Are You Attracted to Your Wife or Objectifying Her?
I Plan on Objectifying my Wife. You Can’t Stop Me! I recently…
I Plan on Objectifying my Wife. You Can’t Stop Me! I recently wrote a Covenant Eyes article “What Christian Culture Has Gotten Wrong About Sexual Purity.” In it, I wrote: Satan’s definition of sex is…
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Can Couples Therapy Fix Our Relationship?
I’ll never forget the day I walked out of therapy during early…
I’ll never forget the day I walked out of therapy during early recovery. I left our therapist’s office crying, screaming, and slamming the door, vowing never to return. It’s safe to assume I was not…
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An Open Letter to My Future Husband
Dear Future Husband, Where are you? I’ve waited a long time for you…
Dear Future Husband, Where are you? I’ve waited a long time for you to appear. Most of my friends have already found love, but I’m still waiting for you. A decade ago I caught the bouquet…