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“Help! My Wife Is Addicted to Porn!” What Husbands Need to Know
If you are a husband who just discovered your wife is addicted…
If you are a husband who just discovered your wife is addicted to porn, you are likely dealing with feelings of grief, betrayal, and confusion. Betrayal is one of the most devastating experiences in a…
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Personality vs. Porn: Perspectives on Willpower 7
We all know someone with apparently inexhaustible willpower. You know, the marathon…
We all know someone with apparently inexhaustible willpower. You know, the marathon runner. The friend from college who finished two degrees while working full-time. The co-worker who stares tirelessly at a screen all day, reading…
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Quitting Porn Fast and Slow: Perspectives on Willpower 6
Have you ever felt like you have a split personality? You have…
Have you ever felt like you have a split personality? You have the best intentions to get up early, work out, eat salad, and read good books. But when it comes right down to it,…
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The Process of Quitting Porn: Perspectives on Willpower 5
So far, the perspectives we’ve examined in this series have each focused…
So far, the perspectives we’ve examined in this series have each focused on one particular aspect of willpower: willpower itself, as a resource. There’s the relationship between your goals and willpower. We’ve considered the role…
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Godly Self-Care: Crash the Crash
After the traumatic discovery of your partner’s sex addiction, you are likely…
After the traumatic discovery of your partner’s sex addiction, you are likely to become consumed with your significant other. You suddenly feel very unsafe and feel like you don’t know this person with whom you…
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Accounting for Porn: Perspectives on Willpower 4
What is worth more to you: looking at porn or not looking…
What is worth more to you: looking at porn or not looking at porn? Think about your decisions like an accountant would. When you face the choice to look at porn or not look at…
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Cybernetic Control Over Porn: Perspectives on Willpower 3
In our last article, we looked at what kinds of plans succeed…
In our last article, we looked at what kinds of plans succeed or fail to accomplish your goals. This article explores the interaction between you and your plans—”cybernetic control.” Cybernetic control sounds like something from…
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Porn Addiction Among College Students
When I moved out after high school and started attending a large,…
When I moved out after high school and started attending a large, public university, I quickly realized just how big of a problem porn is among college students. What surprised me even more was the…
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Planning to Overcome Porn: Perspectives on Willpower 2
In our last article, we looked at a “resource model” of willpower…
In our last article, we looked at a “resource model” of willpower to accomplish your goals. This time we shift the focus from ourselves to our goals. What makes a goal work? How do you…
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Your Most Precious Resource Against Porn: Perspectives on Willpower 1
Why is it so difficult to resist temptation? Why do goals and…
Why is it so difficult to resist temptation? Why do goals and resolutions to quit seem to diminish over time? At Covenant Eyes, we care about the willpower to overcoming porn. The field of research…