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Porn: A Weak Link On Your Character Chain
You’ve heard the saying “a chain is only as strong as its…
You’ve heard the saying “a chain is only as strong as its weakest link.” Depending on the strength of the links, the force needed to break it could be large or small. If every link…
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An Open Letter to a Female Sex Addict
Dear Precious One, I have been where you are. I am no…
Dear Precious One, I have been where you are. I am no stranger to the shame that you feel. Although they are now in my rear view mirror, the horrible self-hate, the embarrassment, the sexual…
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Has your porn addiction made you absent?
Louise worried her husband was way too busy and buried in work.…
Louise worried her husband was way too busy and buried in work. She had more than noticed that he stayed in his home office most of the evening and late into the night, even after…
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It’s Not About Restraint, But Transformation
New song recommendations are the best. The perfect beat or tune can…
New song recommendations are the best. The perfect beat or tune can really make your day. Some lyrics can make you feel like you’ve made strides in your spiritual life ten seconds into the song.…
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3 Powerful Porn Triggers (And How to Overcome Them)
Updated July 2021. I call these three emotional states the “Devil’s Triangle…
Updated July 2021. I call these three emotional states the “Devil’s Triangle of Triggers.” We can’t handle them on our own, and they’ll often send you looking for porn before you know what hit you. Trigger…
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Changing How We See Beauty
King David was on his roof and saw a woman bathing. 2…
King David was on his roof and saw a woman bathing. 2 Samuel 11 tells us that David found her “beautiful to behold,” seeing her according to the flesh. Most of us know how the…
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Accountability Saved My Life
For anyone caught in a daily cycle of destructive behavior, it can…
For anyone caught in a daily cycle of destructive behavior, it can be a struggle to hang on to the hope that it’s possible to beat your addiction. The story below, although it centers around an…
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Why Marrying a Supermodel Won’t Satisfy
I remember the way I thought about marriage back when I was…
I remember the way I thought about marriage back when I was a single chap. I had determined that if I was ever going to get married (i.e. tied down to just one woman for…
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What’s significant about 40 days?
Everything that’s worth having requires immense effort. I’ve found this to be…
Everything that’s worth having requires immense effort. I’ve found this to be abundantly true in two specific areas of my life right now–marriage and parenthood. If I want to have a healthy marriage, it requires…
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Porn Is a Perfect Teacher (Teaching a Deadly Lie)
Sex is God’s idea. Sex is not only a good thing, but…
Sex is God’s idea. Sex is not only a good thing, but an act deliberately willed by God in order to help unify man and woman. Our brain’s wiring reinforces this bonding by unleashing a…