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Luke Gilkerson has a BA in Philosophy and Religious Studies and an MA in Religion. He is the author of Your Brain on Porn and The Talk: 7 Lessons to Introduce Your Child to Biblical Sexuality. Luke and his wife Trisha blog at IntoxicatedOnLife.com

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Advice for Porn-Addict Recovery Groups: Avoid Struggle-Based Identity

If you have ever had a demonstrative struggle with pornography, at some point or another, you might be encouraged to join a group for men or women focused on helping one another with sexual issues.…

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How to Monitor Kids’ Computers

You don’t need a bigger screen to know what your children are up to online. You can monitor kids’ computers by using Accountability Software in the home and on their mobile devices.

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Slut Shaming: Teens’ Sex Lives On Display

It is being called the modern equivalent of the Scarlet Letter. Online “slut shaming” is when someone uses a girl’s (or boy’s) photos, videos, or private information to brand that person as promiscuous or provocative.…

Online Flirting 101: What is “Catfishing”?

What does it mean to be “catfished”? Catfishing is pretending to be another person on the Internet—at times creating whole profiles complete with pictures and biographical information—usually for the purpose of attracting someone else. Recently…

“I’m getting married, so I don’t need Internet Accountability anymore.”

I can’t say the number of times we’ve heard this over the years. For a lot of guys, being single is a real struggle: years of loneliness and sexual frustration have made internet porn all the more…

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Can I Circumvent Covenant Eyes?

There are ways to circumvent Covenant Eyes accountability software, not the least of which is to go down to the local library and use its computers instead of your own. Those who are bent on…

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Should Wives of Porn Users “Just Get Over It”?

This comment is a whopper. Earlier this week a man was reading through the comments from wives on one of our popular posts and left his own criticisms. I’ve posted his thoughts below and my…

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Training Kids to Use the Internet Safely

How does a parent help prepare their child for responsible adulthood? How do we train our kids to use the Internet safely — not just avoiding temptation, but stewarding all their Internet use for the…

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Guilt vs. Shame: Why Definitions Matter

Among counseling ministries and recovery groups it is popular to distinguish between guilt vs shame. Feelings of guilt and shame, they say, are distinct experiences, though often related. Here’s the popular distinction: Guilt is feeling…